The affects of Womanizing on a "womanizer"

  In a past addition of the Final Call Newspaper (Volume 31 Number 14), The Honorable Minister Farrakhan had an article entitled "Men of This World Do Not Desire a Righteous Woman".  In this article there  is a part wherein the Minister states: "In this world, however, the purity of a young woman's love is so overwhelming to a man that many men of this world seek to do work to destroy that purity because of our mental, moral, and spiritual state.". I began to think of how much of a Game that it has become to the men of this world to destroy a woman's purity through lies, deceit, manipulation, etc.. And through this method, we become “womanizers”.  In this world, being a womanizer is promoted extensively. Through the works of media and popular culture, toying with a woman's emotion for selfish pleasures has caused the greatest tragedies within the black family structure that we are witnessing today.   Although our pleasures are being fulfilled as men momentarily, eventually there are psychological effects that womanizing has on the male that are as harmful for our development, as they are for the destruction of the minds of our women.

   When beginning to write this article, the first example that I could think to use was  that of my

personal life. Being a young man that has come into the knowledge of himself and others has allowed me to view my past life from a "god state of mind"(notice the lowercase “g”). Without the teachings of The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad, the virtue and purity of a woman was nothing that I had a concern of helping a woman to nurture. That idea was of no benefit to me. I was growing up in a world that was in DIRECT OPPOSITION with The Lord of The Worlds(GOD).  Where living a beast life is what was(is) promoted daily through the  popular forms of arts and culture, media, and the inner-city neighborhoods in which a large population of us young black men are raised. Growing up, it had become sort of a badge of honor that was given to young men by  older brothers in our neighborhoods to brag on or display the numerous amount of women that you can or have attained. It was a badge that I, as a young man seeking the recognition of the older male figures, wanted to wear proudly. So with desiring the recognition of these more advanced brothers, I had grown into a womanizer.

    Over the course of the years of this overt immature act of womanizing, I began to see throughout my community how this thing "womanizing" began to affect sisters from young to older in age. MAJORITY of the homes within my community were being led by mothers whom were single parents(over 70%, as it is currently, and increasing daily); and most of there reasons for not being with the fathers that those homes were missing was because in their opinions, these men were "no good". In other words cheaters, WOMANIZERS.  In the Holy Qur'an Surah(Chapter)17, Verse 32 it states: "And go not nigh to fornication: surely it is an obscenity. And evil is the way. ". There was a saying in the world amongst brothers whom were womanizers that "there is nothing like a new woman".  Placing a woman's value in what pleasure she could provide at the moment. However through the engaging in the act of fornicating, this is allowed to manifest. The one thing I personally (and I'm sure that other womanizers  as well) did not take into consideration was the psychological damaging that I was causing myself by toying with the emotions of women.

     In the back of every man's mind rest the qualities that he would love for his wife to possess. However, being with multiple women in so many different situations, it strips the man of the ability to completely put himself in a position to build trust for a woman without having the possibility of betrayal in the back of his mind. When a man that has been a womanizer of women of all characters, it diminishes our ability to provide adequate character judgement to a potential mate, it strips the man of the will to trust any woman, and it also opens up the door for the man's insecurities to be exposed.  The honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan stated that our insecurities come about when our desires are challenged. So when it is that a man desires a multitude o women, the more frequent that his game is wearing off, the more insecure he becomes. We all know that male/female insecurities can lead to abuse, molestation, and a host of other problems that will/can continue to plague our communities.

        So to any of my brothers that have issues with womanizing, and to any of my sisters that are devaluing yourselves for the companionship of a man, please remember this statement from The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan "There is nothing in the earth that is more valuable than a virtuous woman,". He did not say nothing ON THE EARTH, he stated "NOTHING IN THE EARTH." is more valuable than she. Think of the things that are within the earth that we place value in. Gold, diamonds, rubies, oil, etc. THMLF is stating that the woman’s value is more than these little things and look at the way we act over these things. We kill over jewelry, and even go to war over oil. So we must surely do better by our women. For as we are taught in the nation by The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad "No Nation Can Rise No Higher Than Its Woman. ". Let's become builders of our woman, and not destroyers of them. The better they are, the better we can become as men.

                                Your Brother

                                Thomas X

                       As-Salaam Alaikum!!